🌟 Are You Secretly Afraid to Finish Things?

Do you find it hard to complete projects, wrap things up, or even say a clear “no”?
Do you start with passion, only to get tangled in distractions or delays?

You’re not alone. The fear of finishing — of completing, ending, or succeeding — is surprisingly common. And often, it’s not laziness or lack of discipline. It’s something deeper.

It’s a fear of success.

But why would we fear success?

From guiding tens of thousands of clients, I’ve discovered that in the subconscious, “success” often means incarnating into the world.
Soul got in. “Yay, success!” I arrived.

And yet — many people carry a hidden resistance to that moment. A part of them whispers:
“Success, or being here, isn’t safe. It’s not a good thing.”

Strange, isn’t it?

Why would birth — our first act of creation — feel like failure?

🌍 Because there’s a collective memory.
A soul-echo of lifetimes spent in slavery, servitude, or suppression.
A belief that says: “I always have to do what I don’t want here. I always suffer. I don’t want to do that anymore.”

So what we’re really facing is a resistance to being alive.
A feeling that being here is a failure — because we can’t do what we truly want.

This is one of the core human programs I’ve identified.
It’s like dragging a boulder uphill — this subconscious weight that pulls you backwards.
And it’s one of the deep patterns we release in my 3-day immersion for Spiritual Masters, The Gift of Harmony, or in Deep Reprogramming sessions.


🌀 Daniel’s Journey — The Fear of Finishing

In one Reprogramming and Past Life Journey, a radiant client named Daniel arrived tangled in a web of beliefs.
He couldn’t finish anything. His life was littered with half-begun projects.
He was constantly battling “distractions” — but they were really soul-level diversions.

His birth story held a clue.

Daniel was due on April 1st — April Fool’s Day.
His mother tried to delay the birth to April 2nd, fearing the baby would be seen as foolish or ridiculous.

His soul purpose? “Looking for solutions.”
But when I asked, “What problem are you trying to solve?”
He paused. And then the belief emerged:

✨ “I’m an unexpected problem.”

He was trying to solve himself.

This led him to manifest endless problems — because we project what we believe we are.
Our “I am…” beliefs shape our world.
As I gently said to him, “You’re generating them.”
His eyes widened behind his glasses. And he smiled.


🌸 Beliefs Born at Birth

Here’s what was playing out:

  • “My mother doesn’t want my creation to be a joke — so she’s delaying my birth.”
  • “My birth is ridiculous.” (Meaning: unsafe to implement.)
  • “I’m afraid of looking ridiculous around others.”

And “mother” here doesn’t just mean your biological mum.
It’s your inner feminine — the part of you that holds dreams, feelings, love, and lifetimes.

Daniel’s subconscious was saying:
“It’s not safe to finish anything. Later would be safer.”
But “later” never comes.


🧬 My Own Birth Story

My mother tried not to give birth on December 31st (my actual birthday).
She wanted to be in the papers for giving birth on January 1st.

So the belief might be:

  • “I’m avoiding my birth to be famous.”
    Which creates: avoiding creation, and not being famous.

I also heard:

  • “My fascinating notion isn’t safe and free.”
    (Where “fascinating notion” = what I’m here to create.)

So: “What I’m here to create is enslaving me.”
And: “I’m not safe to be in the papers.”
Which can manifest as fear around documents, visibility, or recognition.

Another layer:

  • “I’ve scarpered before I came to the place of birth.”
    Meaning: “I’m running away before I’ve even been born!”

🧠 Deep Belief Language

Human beliefs have a syntax — like a divine programming language.
Words may carry different meanings in belief than in English.
Some terms are fluid, others fixed.
It’s organic, messy, and alive.

When odd phrases arise, I ask my guides for the meaning in that moment.
And that’s what I share.


🌈 The Transformation

After our session, Daniel was radiant.
Luminescent. Smiling. Free.

He had released the fear of appearing ridiculous with his creations.
He no longer needed to delay, distract, or diminish his brilliance.

He could now complete what he wanted — without fearing ridicule.

He could birth his creations into the world.


✨ Ready to Finish What You Came Here to Create?

If you’d like to explore your own hidden subconscious landscape —
and release the deep beliefs that may be trapping you,
delaying your dreams, or dimming your creative fire —
then I warmly invite you to connect.

Together, we can gently untangle the threads,
reclaim your soul’s original blueprint,
and restore your power to complete what truly matters.

Please contact me to begin your journey of joyful completion and sovereign creation.


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Building the Life You Want — A Soulful Self-Assessment

How well are you truly doing at building the life you want?

Here’s a gentle yet revealing quiz to help you reflect. Whether you’re answering for yourself or your organisation, rate each area from 1 to 10 — where 10 is full expression and 1 is just beginning.

The Four Worlds of You

  1. Physical World
    Resources, home, abundance, money, and getting things done.
    Score (1–10):
  2. Emotional World
    How happy do you feel? Are you expressing your emotions and connecting deeply? Are you doing what you truly want?
    Score (1–10):
  3. Playful World
    How much fun do you have? Are you expressing creativity — through art, dance, music, play?
    Score (1–10):
  4. Wise World
    How much do you express your spirituality — through yoga, meditation, nature, or community contribution?
    Score (1–10):
  5. Your Dream
    Do you have a dream you long to achieve? How far have you come in creating it?
    Score (1–10):

What Your Scores Reveal

Write your numbers down. Notice which areas feel nourished — and which are calling for more attention. You may find you’re over-invested in one domain while others quietly yearn for expression.

Did your scores feel balanced? Or did one world dominate?

In Western culture, we often over-focus on the Physical World — the Doing One. But within you, there are three other vital aspects:
– The Feeling One
– The Playful One
– The Wise One

These parts need equal expression for your life to feel meaningful and satisfying.


Why Bali Changed Everything

It wasn’t simply arriving in Bali that transformed my life — it was what Bali allowed me to notice.

This sacred island offered a unique energetic invitation to explore the other side of myself: the emotional, playful, and wise aspects that had long been overshadowed by the Doing One. Here, I didn’t just live differently — I actively explored the psychological patterns within myself and others that had created imbalance.

Through this deep inquiry, I discovered 11 core subconscious beliefs that were silently shaping our lives and organisations. These became the foundation of my transformational framework: The Gift of Harmony.


A Tool for Transformation — The Gift of Harmony

Through 28 years of soul inquiry and my successful healing practice online and in Bali, I created The Gift of Harmony — an immersive 8-hour journey over 3 days.

This process works with deep subconscious belief systems to recalibrate the balance among your four inner archetypes. It fosters:
– Equality and fairness among your inner parts
– Respect, collaboration, and emotional safety
– A unified inner team that can co-create with clarity and joy

Only when this harmony is anchored within can it ripple outward — into your organisation, your community, and your family.


Is Your Organisation Balanced?

Ask yourself:
Is your organisation expressing the domineering, overactive masculine?
Or is it embodying the benevolent provider — the positive Doing One who listens, honours, and integrates the other three?

If your workplace needs more balance, I invite you to explore The Gift of Harmony. It’s more than a transformation — it’s a way of living, understanding, and creating soulful organisations.


The Four Archetypes in Organisations

ArchetypeExpression in Business
Masculine (Doing)Project Management, Finance, Operations, Building
Feminine (Feeling)HR, Payroll, Mental Health, Relationships, Connection
Child (Playful)Creativity, Product Design, Sales, Marketing
Higher Self (Wise)Planning, Community, Pensions, Yoga, Charities

About The Gift of Harmony
A transformational programme for individuals and organisations seeking deep balance, soulful leadership, and lasting change.

About Jelila
Visionary soul mentor, author, and creator of The Gift of Harmony. Based in Bali, Jelila guides high-performing women and HR leaders through rapid, life-changing transformation. Her work has been featured in five-star resorts, global media, and award-winning healing experiences.

Contact
Ready to explore harmony in your life or organisation?
Let’s connect:

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To book your session or learn more, visit:
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Reprogramming The Subconscious Mind – Stop Negative Mind Chatter – Unlock the contents of your ‘Secret Negativity Cupboard’ – and Release Blocks – Blossoming Your Hearts Desires! Article by Jelila – www.jelila.com

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Case Study:  Not enough love for Julie!

Julie’s life was far from Blossoming!  Julie came to me needing help with her boyfriend.  He was far away.  She wanted to Blossom her Hearts Desires of a happy relationship with him.  I guided Julie to explore, in a ‘Reprogramming’ session.  She said ‘he just seems to ignore me’.

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I asked who he reminded her of, and Julie answered ‘my mother’.  I guided Julie back to a time when she had been with her mother and felt like that.  ‘I’m lying on my bed, as a baby’, she said.  ‘I remember the fluffy white blanket, the feel of it’.  I asked how she was feeling:  ‘righteous’, she said.  ‘I feel that ‘I’m right and she is wrong’.  And how do you feel about feeling like that?  I asked.   ‘bewildered’, she replied. ‘surely my mother is supposed to know what she is doing?’

‘And what should a mother be doing?’ I asked. ‘Loving me!’ Julie burst out.  ‘Loving me, and nurturing me!’  So this explained why Julie was having trouble loving and nurturing herself – and why she was attracted to a man who didn’t seem to be able to give her much love or attention!

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I guided Julie to release the negative beliefs that were causing her to choose a distant, non-nurturing relationship, using ‘The Reprogramming’ (a powerful technique I have developed, to release negative beliefs in any area of life).

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julieJulie immediately felt better, and after her session, she bought the Detox Negativity Crystal Healing Necklace (shown) to continue to support her every day with positivity, with crystals selected and programmed to drain negative thoughts safely into the ground away from her as she wears it.  She said ‘it helps me feel more positive, with less effort!’ Helping Julie to… Blossom!

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JuliejulJulIe went on to do The Gift of Harmony – my special program which helps you understand relationships and work with them in a much more inspired and creative way.  This program is a radical transformation experience using powerful psychological tool The Reprogramming – it takes only 4 amazing days to complete, yet is a complete re-write of your habitual relationship patterns bringing enormous positive change to your life.

We use powerful techniques of The Reprogramming during The Gift of Harmony Course to radically change your negativity, get all parts of you working together, and help you Blossom Hearts Desires!

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POLARITY – UNDERSTANDING AND FIXING MOOD-SWINGS

POLAWatch my video above to understand a bit about why mood-swings occur (or seem to occur!)  The problem of mood-swings can be helped by using The Reprogramming to balance hidden sub-conscious beliefs – See the video to Find Out More.

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The Reprogramming – Rapid Negativity Release

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To help you release negativity rapidly, I invented a special sub-conscious mind harmonising process, called ‘The Reprogramming’.

As you briefly outline anything that bothers you, that you would like to change, or anything you would like to create but have not been able to create yet, I will guide you to discover the underlying negative thoughts, and release them, permanently through a simple process that anyone can do.  You just need to be able to bring two imaginary balls together in your hands as in my video above.

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Postscript: After releasing the negativity about her mother, Julie’s relationship with her boyfriend transformed – as she was no longer hiding  her ‘secret truth’ of being ‘unlovable’, she is at last able to ask for, and receive, the love and attention that she truly needs – Blossoming her Hearts Desires.

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Guided Chakra MeJelila - healing Online and in Person - www.jelila.com ditation for Joy: Relax, breathe, and imagine yourself on top of a cliff, writing a poem.  A seagull is watching, and a blue feather whirls in air currents above you, swirling blue and white lines and musical notes into the air.  Feel the light breezy feeling, as you tune in on your headphones, listen to the music and begin to write it down.  As you listen, you begin to laugh.  Hold your belly and laugh and laugh as you listen to the music for as long as you like.  When ready, gently return.

This meditation gets you in touch with your inner ‘blythe spirit’ – the bubbly fountain of life that is your well-spring.  The creative force of the Universe.

What do you wish to create? is the question that spirit is always asking you.  The Universe is listening to your dreams and wishes, waiting, like a giant supercomputer, ready to carry them out.

Yet, how pure and how clear are your wishes?  Is all of you positive, or are there negative, self-destructive or spiteful parts of you hidden away, waiting to trip you up, de-railing your beautiful creations?

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How Negative Mental Patterns Get set-up – and How to Release Them

Sometimes in life we misunderstand the real truth of an experience, and think a negative thought – which we end up getting stuck with!  This then sets up a negative pattern that attracts even more negativity!

For example, as a child, your mother frowns at you, and you decide ‘I must be unlovable!’ You reject the thought, naturally, because it makes you go ‘Arrrgh~!!’ – it’s scary  or unpleasant – and it is pushed into your ‘secret negativity cupboard’ – your subconscious mind.  The place you push all the nasty stuff you don’t wish to know.

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There, the negative thought – in this case ‘I’m unlovable’ continues winking away its negative energy into the universe, attracting negative experiences which seem to reinforce the original idea –

experiences where you feel unloved – and yet, you cannot access what is in your cupboard to release that thought – the (untrue!) idea ‘I am unlovable’ – because you already decided consciously – that you don’t want to know!!  So that’s how you get stuck with negativity that you cannot then access to release.

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